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Sex Therapy

Relationships Unfiltered - Straightforward Support: Intimacy Redefined

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Sex, intimacy, and relationships…most of us were lucky if we got any real explanations growing up. We either had conversations that made us feel like crawling under a rock, or we didn’t get any conversations at all. In the world of relationships, one size definitely doesn't fit all. Whether navigating the ups and downs of intimacy or working hard to strengthen your connection, every journey is unique. And when it comes to the often-taboo but equally crucial aspect—sex, it's about embracing the real, unfiltered effort in both the bedroom and beyond that makes the reward of a fulfilling relationship truly worth it.

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You’re tired of feeling caught in this cycle:

  • “Sex isn't what I thought it would be. It feels different, and I'm struggling with disappointment. It's impacting my confidence and making connection more challenging”.

  • "I feel like we're speaking different languages. We can't seem to communicate about our needs and desires, and it's creating a rift between us."

  • “There's this growing distance between us. The spark we once had seems to have dimmed, and I can't help but wonder if we're losing the intimacy we used to share."

  • “No one talked to me about sex growing up and no one asks about your sex life as an adult. I had no idea what to expect and now I have no idea how to build a healthy fulfilling sex life.”

how i can help

Therapy designed to make discussing these issues more approachable and less daunting.

  • Power differences

  • Personal boundaries

  • Low desire or libido

  • Miss-matched sex drive

  • Problems with orgasm

  • Trust concerns

  • Communication techniques and skills

  • Pain with intercourse

  • Sexual anxiety or trauma

  • Sexual changes after menopause or illness

  • Ethical non-monogamy

  • Interpersonal and life factors

Sex therapy for couples can address a wide range of issues, including communication problems, intimacy challenges, and sexual dysfunctions. With sex and marriage counseling, you can explore the deeper aspects of your relationship and build a stronger, more intimate connection. Additionally, sex and intimacy counseling provides a safe space to discuss your concerns openly and without judgment, fostering a more fulfilling relationship. Whether it's sex and intimacy therapy or another specialized approach, the goal is to help you achieve a healthier and more satisfying relationship.

“We know by now that there’s no such thing as normal — or rather, that we’re all normal. We’re all made of the same parts as everyone else, organized in a unique way. No two alike.”

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Therapy with me is…

Trauma-Informed | Non-Judgmental | Sex-Positive | Culturally-Sensitive

Imagine if you…

Could find pleasure in intimacy

Not every touch needs to lead to sex. Imagine wanting to connect with your partner and welcoming intimacy.

Could have conversations instead of fights

Imagine having open and honest conversations with your partner, where communication feels easy and free from judgment.

Regain your self-confidence

Picture regaining the confidence to express your desires, set boundaries, and communicate your needs openly within the relationship and being your true self without fear of judgment.

One of the primary benefits of sex therapy is the improvement of communication between partners. Open and honest communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship, yet many couples struggle with discussing their sexual needs and desires. In sex and marriage counseling, you will learn how to express your thoughts and feelings effectively and listen to your partner with empathy and understanding. This improved communication helps resolve sexual issues and enhances overall relationship satisfaction. Did you know that couples who talk openly about sex have higher levels of sexual satisfaction? Addressing underlying emotional issues that may affect intimacy leads to a more harmonious partnership.

Sex and intimacy therapy also focuses on building emotional closeness. It helps you and your partner understand each other’s emotional and physical needs better, fostering a deeper bond. Research indicates that couples who maintain a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship report higher levels of relationship satisfaction and stability. By resolving sexual difficulties, sex therapy can reignite the passion and closeness that may have dwindled over time. It empowers you to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level, enhancing not just your sexual relationship but also your overall emotional and physical intimacy. This renewed connection can bring a sense of joy, fulfillment, and stability to your relationship, making it stronger and more resilient.


5 Top Benefits Of Sex Therapy:

1

Stress Relief and Mental Health Improvement:

Benefit: Regular sexual activity facilitated by improved sexual health can reduce stress and enhance mental well-being.

Research Support: Sexual activity has been linked to lower levels of stress and improved mood, contributing to better mental health.

2

Increased Relationship Satisfaction:

Benefit: Addressing and resolving sexual issues leads to higher overall relationship satisfaction and stability.

Research Support: Couples who engage in sex therapy often report higher levels of relationship satisfaction and a stronger commitment to their partner.

3

Reduction of Sexual Dysfunction:

Benefit: Sex therapy effectively addresses and treats various forms of sexual dysfunction, such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and low libido.

Research Support: Clinical studies have demonstrated that therapeutic interventions can significantly improve sexual function and satisfaction.

4

Improved Communication

Benefit: Sex therapy helps couples improve their communication about sexual needs, desires, and boundaries.

Research Support: Studies have shown that open communication is crucial for a healthy relationship and overall relationship satisfaction.

5

Enhanced Intimacy and Connection:

Benefit: It fosters a deeper emotional and physical connection between partners.

Research Support: Research indicates that sex therapy can increase feelings of intimacy and strengthen the emotional bond between partners .

I want you to know:

You have support.

Let’s work together to identify where you are now and create a plan for where you want to be.

faqs

Common questions about sex therapy.

  • Sessions are conducted much like a typical individual or couples therapy session. Therapy sessions focus on the physical, mental, emotional and medical aspects that may be contributing to concerns. I help you to rediscover, or create anew, a healthy sex life through common therapy methods, including:

    • Discussion

    • Education

    • Communication exercises

    • Reading relevant handouts or articles

    • Mindfulness techniques

    • Body awareness exercises

    • Homework such as non-sexual touch exercises between partners

    Ethical Practice:

    Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy. There may be times when clients will be given exercises to do at home or be referred to a pelvic floor specialist or other medical professional for certain physical conditions.

    At no time is there any physical contact between the therapist and client.

  • If you are identifying something as a ‘problem’ or are experiencing stress from your circumstances, therapy is often a helpful choice. It is okay to ask for help without judging if the ‘problem’ is big enough.

  • It is not uncommon for one person in a relationship to reach out for therapy before the other is ready to. We can only control ourselves in any situation. If we want something to change, it begins with us. If your partner does not want to attend, we can discuss options based on your individual circumstances. We can still work to improve your relationship until your partner is ready to join.

Sex Therapy Spokane

4407 N Division St Suite 811

Spokane, WA 99207

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