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Couples Therapy

Transforming Love: Couples Therapy That Makes a Difference.

From Conflict to Connection.

Are you and your partner finding it harder to connect like you used to? Do arguments escalate quickly, leaving both of you feeling unheard and frustrated? Is intimacy becoming more of a distant memory than a daily reality? If these questions hit home, you're not alone. Many couples reach a point where they feel stuck, unsure how to move forward and heal their relationship.

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When communication breaks down:

It can feel like you're stuck in a cycle of misunderstandings and resentment. Small issues turn into major conflicts, and the love and respect you once had for each other get buried under layers of negativity. Maybe you're wondering if marriage therapy is the answer, but you're hesitant or unsure about taking that first step. The good news is that there is hope, and there is a way to rebuild your relationship.


Relationships have seasons:

Most couples face bumps in the road. It's completely normal for relationships to go through challenging phases, especially with the pressures of modern life. Stress from work, family responsibilities, financial concerns, and even global events can strain any relationship. In fact, studies show that about 70% of couples experience significant conflict at some point in their relationship.

Many couples struggle with similar issues, such as communication breakdowns, differences in values or goals, and mismatched sexual desires. Understanding that these struggles are common can help you feel less isolated. Blaming yourself or your partner for these issues won't help, but recognizing that many others face similar challenges can be a crucial first step toward seeking help.

how i can help

Love Stronger - Compassionate support & tailored therapy for real couples.

Couples therapy provides a safe, structured environment where you can work through these challenges together. My approach is grounded in an eclectic mix of evidence-based therapies tailored to meet you where you are in your relationship. Whether you're looking to improve communication, rebuild trust, or reconnect emotionally and physically, our therapy sessions are designed to address your unique needs.

In sessions, we will explore your relationship history to understand the root causes of your conflicts. I teach new communication skills and strategies to help you express your thoughts and feelings more effectively. Techniques from couples communication therapy can be incredibly beneficial, offering you tools to navigate difficult conversations without escalating conflict.

As a couples therapist with over 15 years of experience, I ensure each session is focused and productive. You'll find a non-judgmental space where both partners can voice their concerns and work towards solutions together. My role is to guide you, offering insights and strategies that promote healing and growth.

No matter your specific circumstances, the goal of therapy is to help you find a path to a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. I use a blend of therapeutic approaches to ensure that the strategies we develop are tailored to your needs. From cognitive-behavioral techniques to emotion-focused therapy, each method is chosen to help you and your partner reconnect and rebuild your relationship.

“It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.”

Ester Perel - Psychotherapist

Therapy with me is…

Trauma-Informed | Non-Judgmental | Inclusive | Sex-Positive | Culturally-Sensitive


Your relationship challenges don't have to be the end of your story. Therapy offers a chance to address these issues head-on, with the support of a professional who understands the complexities of love and partnership. Each session is an opportunity to gain new insights, learn effective strategies, and build a stronger, more resilient relationship. By working together in a structured, supportive environment, you can overcome the obstacles that are holding your relationship back. Whether it's improving communication, resolving conflicts, or rebuilding trust, couples therapy provides the tools and guidance you need to create a healthier, happier partnership.

Imagine being able to talk openly with your partner without the fear of arguments or misunderstandings. Through therapy, we can work on breaking down those communication barriers and establishing a foundation of mutual respect and understanding. It's about creating a space where both partners feel heard and valued, allowing for more meaningful and productive conversations. Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but it's how we handle these conflicts that makes the difference. In therapy, we can explore healthier ways to resolve disputes, focusing on collaboration rather than confrontation. By learning to approach conflicts with empathy and a willingness to find common ground, you can reduce tension and build a more harmonious relationship.

Trust is another crucial element in any partnership, and it can be incredibly challenging to rebuild once it's been damaged. Whether due to infidelity, broken promises, or other breaches of trust, therapy can help you and your partner work through these issues. We can develop strategies to rebuild trust and create a more secure and reliable relationship. Additionally, therapy isn't just about addressing problems; it's also about celebrating and reinforcing the strengths in your relationship. We will identify what works well between you and your partner, and find ways to build on these positive aspects. This balanced approach ensures that while we tackle the tough issues, we also recognize and enhance the love and connection that brought you together in the first place.

Investing in therapy is an investment in your future together. It's about acknowledging that while relationships require effort, they are also incredibly rewarding. By committing to the process and being open to change, you can transform your relationship into one that is not only resilient but also deeply fulfilling.

If you're feeling stuck or uncertain about the future of your relationship, consider taking this step towards healing and growth. Together, we can navigate the challenges and create a path towards a more connected and loving partnership.

Imagine if you…

Could get along with your partner

Imagine facing challenges together, equipped with the tools and strategies to navigate through them, emerging stronger as a united couple

Could have conversations instead of fights

Imagine having open and honest conversations with your partner, where communication feels easy and free from judgment.

Regain your self-confidence

Picture regaining the confidence to express your desires, set boundaries, and communicate your needs openly within the relationship and being your true self without fear of judgment.

faqs

Common questions about couples counseling.

  • It's common for one partner to feel more hesitant about starting therapy. If this is the case, consider starting with individual sessions to address your concerns and develop strategies for encouraging your partner to join. Sometimes, seeing the positive changes in you can motivate your partner to participate.

  • The duration of therapy varies for each couple. Some may find significant improvement in just a few sessions, while others may benefit from longer-term support. We'll work together to determine the best approach based on your specific needs and goals.

  • Not at all. Marriage therapy can be beneficial at any stage of a relationship, whether you're facing a specific crisis or simply want to strengthen your connection and communication. It's an investment in your relationship's future.

Couples Therapy Spokane

4407 N Division St Suite 811

Spokane, WA 99207

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